Coping With Fear and Sorrow
by Lisa Tyler
feel that many people are searching for answers this week to
life’s bigger questions that involve the little word WHY.
course we’re saddened by the deaths at Virginia Tech.
It has brought the issue of safety and life’s purpose
again to our minds. My
heart goes out to all who are grieving and to those who are
God bless you all with comfort, safety and meaningful living.
remember as a student, some of the big questions for me were
“Why can’t I be as pretty as so and so, and why can’t my
family be rich?” Why
is life unfair? Why
do people have to die? Why
am I fat? Why am I depressed? Why
do we have to obey rules, laws and even God Himself?
of you may recognize your own question there, and some of you
adults may STILL be asking the very same questions along with
“Why do I work so hard and make so little headway?”
think that we’re not going to know the answers to questions
such as “Why did this young man murder?” There is a lot of looking around to find someone or something
to blame going on, but this is really counter productive.
people are saying it’s the fault of video games.
The South Koreans are feeling that their whole country
has been shamed by his actions, and that they are somehow
responsible for his behavior.
Others are saying that all children who are quiet should
be removed from the community and treated as potential time
bombs. This sounds
like the beginning of a witch-hunt to me.
fact is that there are around 6 billion living souls on this
planet and of that number it is inevitable that there will be
every possible combination of character, health problem, mental
issue and flaw. These
things have always existed; even in the Bible times there were
deeply troubled people, and even those they called possessed.
makes it different for us today, is that now more than any other
time in history, people are gathering together in large numbers,
with easy access to communications so that we are now not only
more likely to come into contact with the deeply disturbed
people, we are also more likely to hear about more tragedies
each day than the normal person can bear to hear.
simply were not created to hear the burdens of the entire world
and the evil it contains. Only
God can bear such a thing.
this time in history, we also have much more freedom of choice
and the actual physical, financial and intelligence capability
to wreak havoc on the world around us if we begin to get out of
don’t believe mankind has bettered their situations in every
area of life. There
is much to be said for the old ways.
Some of those old ways were having strong family units,
grandparents being a major influence in the lives of the next
generations coming up, and long periods of time alone to think -
as people worked mostly with their hands.
have a lot of time to think when you’re in a garden pulling
weeds, or sewing clothing, or walking to work and school.
we work, we are preoccupied with tasks like driving and cell
phone conversations while we travel.
We sit at our computers or work stations and are either
bombarded with ads, text, music playing or some type of activity
in front of our eyes at all times.
if I asked you “how much time do you spend alone each day to
pray, meditate or simply plan your future?” Would you be able to find any time in a busy day that you
have set aside simply to BE yourself?
To acknowledge God?
Jesus needed that time alone and made time to get away from
noise and the busywork of living, EVERY day, then why do we
think we are immune to the needs of our spirit?
can’t prevent bad things from happening here and there in the
world, but you can do three things that will help you become
more immune to the insanity out there.
is to step back from the news, focus on good healthy and happy
information, and reduce your exposure to stimulation of all
your life and filter what you allow your eyes to see, and your
ears to hear. Quiet
time is absolutely crucial to figure out who you are and where
you fit in on this planet.
establish a connection with God.
You need a personal, real relationship with Jesus and who
you feel is your Creator or source. Prayers that pay lip service to knowing God will not give you
comfort or peace in times of trouble.
Real knowledge of who God is and what He said in the
Bible will give you that peace.
you read the history of other human beings on the planet, and
you see that they’ve all gone through very similar things to
what you experience today, you can “feel” your place in the
middle of them, where you belong and what your purpose might be.
certainly not alone, and God has given us definite instructions
for almost every circumstance in Scripture.
more time you set aside for yourself, the more you will humbly
respect yourself. The
more time you set aside for God, the more you will respect Him
and feel free to call upon Him in times of trouble.
this man who killed others.
He was broken, lost, confused and felt things that we
(most likely) do not. If
we were in his shoes, we may have done the same thing, but
regardless of whether we would have done it or not, we’re all
a part of humanity, sharing an experience of consciousness.
He was our brother, and he was in pain.
helps us cope if we get in the habit of forgiveness.
It helps put things in perspective and brings the
“monsters in the dark” down to size.
for each other, pray for the victims and their families, but
mostly, pray for mercy and compassion, so that you can be a
light in the world for those lost to find.
YOU are the missing link to understanding love and peace.
You are the one who is needed to fill in the gap for
others when they cannot stand on their own.
when you examine the lives of those who die young, and you
wonder why they weren’t given the chance to finish what they
set out to do, leave it in the hands of God.
that they may have done everything they were sent to do, and by
their deaths they might help bring us closer, and others to find
their way to God.
likely that the answers to the question WHY are not even meant
to be discovered in this lifetime.
The reason may be that none of those answers really
the whole point is that difficulty, obstacles, pain and sorrow,
are all here to give us something to push against to become
better people. To
lift ourselves higher and to reach the higher purpose we were
put here for. To
have no problems, we’re usually just floating along content to
go wherever the current leads us.
Very often a crisis will be the spark that sets a
person’s life on fire, like a star or fireworks that can be
seen for miles around, but only in the dark.
everything is as it should be.
All that is asked of you today, is simply to BE you.
You are a human BEING not a human DOING.
It is impossible for you to make anyone else do ANYTHING.
Hope instead to learn from this day more of who you are,
and what you love. Do
those things, with humility and compassion and you cannot go
wrong, no matter what happens around you.
a wonderful week!
Copyright © 2007 Lisa Tyler
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